Welcome back guys,
The attractive man is something that every man is trying to be. Nobody want’s to be Pee Wee Herman, but everyone wants to be Brad Pitt.
Being magnetically attractive to women feels great. Having beautiful women give you love and attention is an exhilarating and delightful feeling.
Did you know that you can become the attractive man just by doing one thing, and it doesn’t involve working out, spending money, or climbing in social status?
To be the attractive man, feel that amazing feeling inside that you would feel if you had everything you wanted in your life in regards to women.
Feel it all the time.
This positive energy will literally flow from every one of your pours and magnetically attract women.
You can achieve this feeling at any time you choose, and with practice, it will become automatic.
There are numerous ways to achieve the incredible feeling of the attractive man, so I’ll just share one. It involves a simple visualization technique.
Sit relaxed in your chair and take a few deep breaths. Close your eyes and visualize exactly how you would like your life to be with women.
See the vision of yourself as the attractive man surrounded by the number and type of women you would love to have. Envision the way these women respond to your every action, and are enthralled by your presence and charm.
More importantly, feel the great feeling that should be bubbling up inside you right now. Feel as if you have already become that attractive man.
Visualize and feel the power of the attractive man and very soon you’ll find yourself to be him.
Till Next Time
Kurt Spelling
Every man wants to know how to meet women at the mall. During the daytime, many of the most beautiful women can be found at the mall because they are both fashion conscious and are usually not working a day job for a reason (rich boyfriends, strippers etc).
So whats the secret on how to meet women at the mall?
1. Open Conversation - It’s Easy When You Know How
This part is SO easy in the mall because there is so much situational stuff to chat about. Plus, unlike men, women go to the mall to casually shop. You don’t have to worry about them being in a busy rush. They have plenty of time to chat.
Open conversation with something situational. Ask them how a shirt would look on you, or where a store is.
A hilarious technique to meet women at the mall would be to ask “Hey can you tell me where such-and-such a store is?” while your standing right in front of it. She will always laugh, then just follow it up by saying “Well, I had to stop and chat with you somehow” or something similar, and an introduction.
2. Meeting Women At the Mall - A Powerful Bonus
The best part about knowing how to meet women at the mall is that you get to go on a date with them instantly!
If you meet a girl in a clothing store, you can instantly grab iced cream, play arcade games, buy some funky jewelry, and have some coffee. That is 4 separate dates, and you haven’t even left the place you met at!
By using this method of instant dating you will be building a lot of comfort very quickly with this women.
Now that you know how to meet women at the mall, where you take it from there is up to you!
Mmm Hmmm
Kurt Spelling
Hey again fellas!
Flirting body language is one of the most powerful tools of a man who is looking to seduce women. Male flirting body language can be achieved quickly by following a few simple methods.
Male flirting body language Technique 1: Push Pull
When interacting with a girl, use your body language to approve and disapprove of her. When she says something you love, turn your flirting body language on with a bit of touch and by directing your legs and torso toward her (approval).
When she does something you disapprove of, or at least jokingly disapprove of, turn your flirting body language off and face away from her.
You can even go as far as turning your back to her for a solid 5 seconds. Turn back with a sly smile and she’ll be laughing every time.
Girls are emotional creatures and are attracted to a man based on how he makes her FEEL. Using push pull body language, you will run her through a range of emotions and really stimulate her.
Women find this irresistible.
Male Flirting Body Language Technique 2: Establish Alpha-Male Status
After you have initially approached a girl and opened conversation, try planting your feet firmly right in front of her. Be solid, don’t fidget.
Flirting body language for a man is half about push-pull and half about dominance. Women want an alpha male.
Stand tall and firmly in front of the girl you are interested in! Keep your head tall and your motions smooth and deliberate. Slowing down your movements, along with tall posture, will present your male flirting body language in a powerful way.
Go get em!
Kurt Spelling
Hey guys,
Many men find themselves nervous and anxious because they don’t know how to start conversation with a woman.
This is a common problem. The surprising part, is it has almost nothing to do with what to say.
Pick up lines are garbage. Sure, good routines can work and get the response you are looking for from women, if you practice them and are comfortable with being inauthentic.
Wouldn’t you rather have a woman want to talk to you when you are just being yourself? Me too.
So how to start conversation naturally, as yourself?
When you are a truly self-amusing, self-sufficient male, how to start conversation is not a question. You can literally say anything.
When you have great feelings bubbling inside, feeling awesome within your reality, this energy is contagious.
You can literally say anything, or nothing at all! I can’t tell you the amount of times I’ve started an awesome conversation with a high five or pound.
If you would like to know a few great verbal ways to start conversation, I would recommend a genuine “Hi, you looked adorable I had to come meet you!” You’re not hiding anything here, which is good. Women want a strong man who will show his intent in his actions.
You could also try just commenting on something she is wearing or the surrounding area and follow it up with a “Hi I’m such and such”. Conversation is easy. Realize that you are a unique person who’s had x-amount of years of unique experience. You DO have things to talk about.
How to start conversation is not the real question. The real question is how to have an awesome party inside and project your incredible reality outwards to magnetically attract females.
Once you can consistently generate great feelings inside, you will be unstoppable in life, especially with women. How to start conversation will be far from your thoughts, guaranteed.
Kurt Spelling
The dating game can make a lot of people nervous. What to wear? Where to go? Will she like this place, or that?
Relax. There are two simple tips you can use to take the pressure off the dating game.
1. Keep it Simple and Personal
One of the biggest mistakes guys make is taking women on huge elaborate first dates. If you barely know the girl, why would you want to do that to yourself?
Don’t force a long boring dinner. The girl might not be as cool as you remember her.
The dating game is best started simple. Go to a really nice park near where you live, or something similar like a botanical garden, or trails in the woods. Go for a walk and talk.
It is best to keep it personal and low pressure. The worst first date you could go on would be dinner and a movie. A movie is two hours of zero conversation. This makes you no progress in getting to know each other and is a complete waste of time.
2. Go to Multiple Places – Build Comfort
The other way to take pressure off the dating game is to go to multiple places. This not only builds a lot of comfort between the two of you, but will most likely be the most unique date the girl has been on.
Which sounds more fun to you?
A date where you go to a restaurant and then a movie and then say goodnight, or a date where you go for a walk in a garden, then grab food before checking out an art exhibit, then grab some drinks at a crazy Japanese hibachi bar, then go back to her/your place?
You see how the dating game can be boring and high pressure or it can be how you’d like it to be; Fun, interesting, and leading to intimacy with your new friend.
Enjoy the dating game,
Kurt Spelling
How to impress a girl is something that should never cross your mind. This is how you will truly impress a girl.
Confused?
Let me explain. Society teaches us to impress a girl by buying her presents, treating her special, and always making sure she is completely happy.
This not only doesn’t impress a girl, but in most cases will make a girl completely not attracted to you.
The truly beautiful women have had so many men do this to them throughout their life that most of them are very turned off by it.
So if beautiful women hate this kind of behavior, how do you impress them?
The only thing you must do is be non-reactive and solid in your own reality. By this, I mean you are sure of your decisions, actions, and beliefs.
She has no effect over your behaviors simply based on the fact that she is a girl or beautiful. Every woman wants to align with a man who is self-sufficient, self-amused, and strong willed.
Beautiful girls are used to barking commands, or whining and having men listen and react according to their will. Although a lot of beautiful women enjoy this, biologically it disgusts them. The man who won’t bend to their will is the one they will be attracted to.
When a girl is always asked questions like “Where do you want to eat?”, “Where do you want to sit?” “What do you feel like doing?”, “Is this okay?” they begin to get disgusted with their indecisive (and now un-manly) man.
Be solid in your beliefs and reality. Don’t worry about how to impress a girl and you will know how to impress a girl.
Good to know.
Kurt Spelling
Welcome back!
Humor is a great asset to any man who is trying to seduce women because it creates comfort and familiarity between you and the woman.
When using humor as one of your seduction techniques, realize that this alone will not get you the woman. Just being funny will not seduce women, but it really can help.
So how can you utilize humor in your seduction techniques?
1. Twist Her Words
It is always hilarious to twist a girls words, especially in a sexual manner. Then always follow it up by framing it as if she is suggesting the sexuality, and dismiss it. This will keep her chasing you and keep the interaction fun the entire time.
For example, she says “Let’s break it.” You can immediately say “What, lets get naked? God I’ve only known you for an hour, slow down. You have to at least buy me a drink first.”
Do this with a devilish grin and dubious look and she will laugh every time. The best part about using these seduction techniques is it will get her thinking about you in a sexual manner, even through humor. Very good stuff.
2. Everything That Was Funny When You Were Ten, Still Is
There are a few seduction techniques that illustrate this perfectly. For example, try using the gag when you point at a girls chest and say “what’s that?”, then tap her in the nose when she looks down.
You can be sure she hasn’t had a man do this to her since she was ten. And, yup, it’s still funny. Also, you’ve now fooled around with her like most other men have forgotten how. You’re fun. You’re unique.
Seduction techniques like these will keep your interactions fun and sexually charged. Use them to easily develop attraction with humor.
Kurt Spelling
Welcome back guys,
Knowing if she’s interested used to be a huge problem of mine, and I know it is for a lot of guys today. What are the flirting signs? How do you know she’s interested and not just ‘being nice’?
Eventually, you will ALWAYS know she’s interested by the vibe you are getting. Until you reach that point though, you can look for the 5 major flirting signs as a guide.
As a general rule, once you receive three solid flirting signs, you know its ON and she is fully interested in you. Knowing this makes it really easy to escalate to a kiss or something beyond chatting, because you can be positive inside she’s interested.
So what are these obvious flirting signs?
Is she flirting?
1. She Asks Your Name
This one is huge. For a girl to ask your name, she is very interested in learning who you are. Always take this as a big sign.
2. She Strokes Her Hair While Talking to You
3. Her Body Language is Directed Toward You
For example, you’re sitting down and her legs are crossed towards you, torso facing you as well. This is a solid flirting sign. She’s interested.
4. She Laughs at Your Jokes, Even When They Aren’t Funny
5. She Stays With You Even If Friends Leave
When a girl’s friends go to the bathroom and she stays to chat with you, you can assume she’s interested. This is one of the biggest flirting signs of all.
There are literally hundreds of subtle ways to tell that a girl is interested in you. With practice and experience you will learn how to spot them all, without conscious effort.
Once you gain enough experience with flirting signs, you will just “feel” it.
Good to Know
Kurt Spelling
Hey fellas,
A lot of men have come to me asking how to show a girl you like her. This seems to be a problem for many guys, particularly if you are the type who tends to meet girls through work or your social circle.
The best part about this problem is it is very easy to fix. How to show a girl you like her is dependent on what place your relationship is at.
First of all, make sure to you show a girl you like her right away. When meeting a girl, you can say something along the lines of “you seemed fun I had to meet you” or “I noticed you had a lot of style and I had to meet you”.
Either of these will let her know you are initially interested. Saying “I had to meet you” though, lets them know that you are only liking them superficially as of right now, and are interested in seeing if you would like their personality.
Later on in an interaction, if you are enjoying the girl’s personality, let her know. Comment on your commonalities, as this will show you are appreciating her personality as well as finding yourself compatible with her. These comments could be as simple as a smile and a high five when she pleases you with what she says or does.
Reward good behavior and traits that you enjoy and you will find more and more of them come out. These little rewards are all you need to know about how to show a girl you like her.
Girls are very intuitive and will pick up on your intent in the interaction. By the way, it is SUPER IMPORTANT that you DO show a girl you like her. Otherwise you will end up either boring her, or worse, becoming her ‘friend’.
Showing her you’re interested is the first step towards avoiding the ‘friend zone’ and beginning a new romantic relationship.
Get em’
Kurt Spelling
This is a topic that I felt I must address. After reading and participating in some dating forums, I realized this is a huge issue for many guys.
You spend a lot of time with a girl, with positive emotions flowing between the two of you, and it builds and builds. Eventually, the girl seems different than all others, special.
This is a phenomenal feeling when you two are together, because it makes it such an incredible experience. But as much as it feels great when you are together, it feels equally terrible when you split up.
This is why so many guys have a huge issue in this area, and don’t know how to get over a break up.
2 Simple Steps - How to Get Over a Break Up
1. The Abundance Mindset
In order to really become great with women, and a powerful man in your own right, you must recognize and embrace the abundance mindset. This goes for everything in life, but here we’ll talk about its specific application to women. More specifically, you’ll apply it to learn how to get over a break up.
Realize that there are more women on this planet than men. There are literally billions of women on the Earth. Reasonably, if 10% of women are ‘hot’ in your eyes, that leaves you hundreds of millions of hot women to choose from. Even more reasonably, if only 0.5% of women are hot, intelligent, stylish, confident etc. (whatever your standards are), that still leaves you tens of millions of “perfect” women!
Get over a break up by embracing this abundance. By learning the skills for approaching and seducing the women you desire, you have access to as many of these “perfect” women as you want.
2. Take Right Action
This is the easy step of how to get over a break up. The relationship you were in did not work out. You may not even remember this depending on how long you were with the girl, but before you were in this relationship you were a happy, capable, self sustaining man.
Return to that man. Connect with yourself and realize to get over a break up you must take right action.
What is the right action?
Well, see that cute girl? Go talk to her! Maybe she is the next “perfect” girl for you. Maybe she’s even more “perfect” than the last one! Get over a break up by immersing yourself in the abundance and possibilities of more “perfect” girls!
Once you master this mindset and the ability to meet and attract any women you desire, you will be able to instantly get over a break up.
Kurt Spelling
