Being in the moment is something that will help you in all aspects of your life, but it can be particularly helpful for dating.  When you are in the moment you convey a lot of attractive qualities to the opposite sex.

First of all, you’re in the moment, enjoying everything around you for what it is, as apposed to up in your own head.  When you are talking to a girl and you are in your head, she will subconsciously pickup on this.  If when you’re talking, you’re up in your head thinking “Umm what should I say next, ummm would she like it if i did this?” it comes through in the communication.

This is one of the things guys do most that women simply hate.  It conveys low value.  It shows that you are actively placing her as higher value than yourself, because you are putting so much thought into the interaction with the woman.

To avoid being up in our own heads, we must be in the moment.  Now what does that mean exactly?

Being in the moment, essentially means just being.

There are no thoughts, no judgments, no questioning of what is occurring around you.  You are embracing exactly what is going on in front of you, without thinking about what has happened in the past, what will happen in the future, if this is good, if it is bad, if you should do this or that.  You just are.

When you are in the moment people like you.  You come off as genuine and real.  You come off as someone who has a calm and controlled life.  You appear confident.

Most people do not live in the moment and this is the worst thing you can do for your mental health.  If you never stop to just appreciate what is going on right this moment, and spend your whole life wrapped up in the past, or possible future, you will never live life powerfully, be it with women or in any other aspect.

Also, when you are in the moment, you will be enjoying your reactions much  more.  You will be connecting with people much quicker and more deeply because you are being genuine in your experience.  Women will see this quality in you and find it endearing and intriguing.

So how can we begin to live in the moment?

There is a simple breathing exercise that I highly recommend.  It will teach you to live in the moment much more often and to appreciate the moment for what it is.

Whenever you get a chance, or recognize that you’re very out of the moment, just take a deep full breath.  Breath in deeply, filling up your diaphragm first, and then the top of your chest.  As you fill your lungs with air, think no thoughts, but just focus on the air coming in.

Quickly you will be bombarded with no smells sights and sounds of your atmosphere that you didn’t previously notice were there.  You will be appreciating the moment.
Doing this multiple times a day will greatly increase your ability to live powerfully in the moment.

Kurt Spelling