Archive for September, 2008
Hey again fellas!
One thing that many men don’t realize is that in order to win at the dating game you will have to pass womens’ “tests”. Every single woman will test a man, although some women test much less than others.
Women test a man throughout the dating game to ensure that he is a suitable mate. They want to make sure they have a strong man.
So how do you know if a woman is testing you in the dating game?
While there exists literally thousands of small tests a woman will use, knowing these three major ones will give you a huge head start.
1. She asks a lot of questions
Asking a lot of questions is a definite sign of interest, but also a test. If you give up all the information she requests right away, or too easily, you are losing at the dating game.
She will quickly get bored and move on.
Pass this test by challenging her. Don’t always reveal the information she wants right away. Make her guess, make her work for your information. You are valuable and dominant in the dating game, you’ve seen it all before!
2. She tells you to do something
Many men will instantly lose attraction in the dating game by failing this common test. You may be talking about your job as a voice actor with a woman you just met. To test, she’ll say “Oh do your funny voice!”
Many men will be too eager to please and jump right into entertainer mode. You are skilled at the dating game and instead will be challenging with a reply like “Sorry hun I got off at five, but maybe later if you’re lucky” with a sly grin.
3. She presents unacceptable behavior
Many beautiful women will test men in the dating game by offering completely unacceptable behavior and seeing how they react. She may say a rude remark, or do something inappropriate or obnoxious.
Strong men call the woman out, while weak men will just allow it because she is beautiful. She is used to this because most men aren’t skilled in the dating game, and she absolutely hates it!
She wants to be called out and told she’s being rude. Doing this right takes skills and practice, as well as powerful mindsets to ensure she does not affect your reality. This can all be learned in time.
Regards,
Kurt Spelling
Yo guys,
There is one important mindset that you need to achieve when learning how to meet women, and as the title states, it is one of abundance. For any man who is looking to add more female attention from more beautiful women, you must first make a shift in your mindset.
Now what does a mindset of abundance really mean when dealing with how to meet women?
When you think about your current state of affairs with women, what kinds of statements do you make? What kinds of desires occur?
For example, you might say “I don’t have a girlfriend and I would really love to learn how to meet a great woman. Women never give me the time of day. It’s like I’m transparent.”
The desire is that you want to meet a woman that will make a great girlfriend, but your thoughts and mindset are telling you that you are incapable of meeting a girlfriend.
In order to learn how to meet women, you must make this conscious shift in how you think about yourself in regards to women.
The “How To Meet Women” Abundance Mindset
“I’m so happy to know that there is an abundance of beautiful women in the world who are high quality and meet my standards. If a woman I see is not computable with me, it thrills me to know that there is a never ending supply of beautiful women. I’m glad to know that meeting the exact quality girlfriend I’m looking for is inevitable because there are so many women out there and I’m both motivated to find and deserving of the women I desire.”
Little bit fruity, but think about how much more empowering these statements are than the ones above.
If you repeat this mindset it will become a belief that you hold in your core. This is the first step towards knowing how to meet women in abundance.
Kurt Spelling
Hey again Fellas
I hope you guys are getting a lot out of the articles I’ve been writing on this blog. I’m doing my best to give you guys a ton of helpful information. Don’t forget to leave your thoughts and comments! I’ll be personally moderating every one of them and love to hear your guys thoughts/opinions!
Now on to todays post…
Seducing women is something that many men find tricky. A lot of guys have love lives that are unsatisfying and void of the attention from the quality women they desire.
The horrible thing about men not being able to seduce women is the women walk around wishing men knew how to seduce them!
MOST men are terrible at seducing women. This is because society and social conditioning lead men to believe in two major misconceptions.
1. Women Are non-sexual Flowers that Must be “Courted”
Women have 10x the sensitivity in their sexual organs as men. On top of that, they have a week out of every single month where their hormones rage and nearly drive them mad with horniness.
Women LOVE sex, just as much, if not more than men. Seducing women becomes much easier once you realize that you aren’t trying to swindle them or trick them into sleeping with you.
Women want to be seduced and they want your sex.
2. Seducing Women is a Long Process of Comfort Building
Wrong! Most men think that they are seducing women by talking to them over a long period of time and showing them their great personality, but in actuality, they are putting themselves in the friend zone.
Women don’t date or sleep with friends. If a woman has lost or never had attraction for you, there is almost nothing that will change that.
Seducing women can happen in just minutes. As long as you lead the process, seducing women can become almost automatic.
Kurt Spelling
Welcome back guys,
The attractive man is something that every man is trying to be. Nobody want’s to be Pee Wee Herman, but everyone wants to be Brad Pitt.
Being magnetically attractive to women feels great. Having beautiful women give you love and attention is an exhilarating and delightful feeling.
Did you know that you can become the attractive man just by doing one thing, and it doesn’t involve working out, spending money, or climbing in social status?
To be the attractive man, feel that amazing feeling inside that you would feel if you had everything you wanted in your life in regards to women.
Feel it all the time.
This positive energy will literally flow from every one of your pours and magnetically attract women.
You can achieve this feeling at any time you choose, and with practice, it will become automatic.
There are numerous ways to achieve the incredible feeling of the attractive man, so I’ll just share one. It involves a simple visualization technique.
Sit relaxed in your chair and take a few deep breaths. Close your eyes and visualize exactly how you would like your life to be with women.
See the vision of yourself as the attractive man surrounded by the number and type of women you would love to have. Envision the way these women respond to your every action, and are enthralled by your presence and charm.
More importantly, feel the great feeling that should be bubbling up inside you right now. Feel as if you have already become that attractive man.
Visualize and feel the power of the attractive man and very soon you’ll find yourself to be him.
Till Next Time
Kurt Spelling
Every man wants to know how to meet women at the mall. During the daytime, many of the most beautiful women can be found at the mall because they are both fashion conscious and are usually not working a day job for a reason (rich boyfriends, strippers etc).
So whats the secret on how to meet women at the mall?
1. Open Conversation - It’s Easy When You Know How
This part is SO easy in the mall because there is so much situational stuff to chat about. Plus, unlike men, women go to the mall to casually shop. You don’t have to worry about them being in a busy rush. They have plenty of time to chat.
Open conversation with something situational. Ask them how a shirt would look on you, or where a store is.
A hilarious technique to meet women at the mall would be to ask “Hey can you tell me where such-and-such a store is?” while your standing right in front of it. She will always laugh, then just follow it up by saying “Well, I had to stop and chat with you somehow” or something similar, and an introduction.
2. Meeting Women At the Mall - A Powerful Bonus
The best part about knowing how to meet women at the mall is that you get to go on a date with them instantly!
If you meet a girl in a clothing store, you can instantly grab iced cream, play arcade games, buy some funky jewelry, and have some coffee. That is 4 separate dates, and you haven’t even left the place you met at!
By using this method of instant dating you will be building a lot of comfort very quickly with this women.
Now that you know how to meet women at the mall, where you take it from there is up to you!
Mmm Hmmm
Kurt Spelling
Hey again fellas!
Flirting body language is one of the most powerful tools of a man who is looking to seduce women. Male flirting body language can be achieved quickly by following a few simple methods.
Male flirting body language Technique 1: Push Pull
When interacting with a girl, use your body language to approve and disapprove of her. When she says something you love, turn your flirting body language on with a bit of touch and by directing your legs and torso toward her (approval).
When she does something you disapprove of, or at least jokingly disapprove of, turn your flirting body language off and face away from her.
You can even go as far as turning your back to her for a solid 5 seconds. Turn back with a sly smile and she’ll be laughing every time.
Girls are emotional creatures and are attracted to a man based on how he makes her FEEL. Using push pull body language, you will run her through a range of emotions and really stimulate her.
Women find this irresistible.
Male Flirting Body Language Technique 2: Establish Alpha-Male Status
After you have initially approached a girl and opened conversation, try planting your feet firmly right in front of her. Be solid, don’t fidget.
Flirting body language for a man is half about push-pull and half about dominance. Women want an alpha male.
Stand tall and firmly in front of the girl you are interested in! Keep your head tall and your motions smooth and deliberate. Slowing down your movements, along with tall posture, will present your male flirting body language in a powerful way.
Go get em!
Kurt Spelling
Hey guys,
Many men find themselves nervous and anxious because they don’t know how to start conversation with a woman.
This is a common problem. The surprising part, is it has almost nothing to do with what to say.
Pick up lines are garbage. Sure, good routines can work and get the response you are looking for from women, if you practice them and are comfortable with being inauthentic.
Wouldn’t you rather have a woman want to talk to you when you are just being yourself? Me too.
So how to start conversation naturally, as yourself?
When you are a truly self-amusing, self-sufficient male, how to start conversation is not a question. You can literally say anything.
When you have great feelings bubbling inside, feeling awesome within your reality, this energy is contagious.
You can literally say anything, or nothing at all! I can’t tell you the amount of times I’ve started an awesome conversation with a high five or pound.
If you would like to know a few great verbal ways to start conversation, I would recommend a genuine “Hi, you looked adorable I had to come meet you!” You’re not hiding anything here, which is good. Women want a strong man who will show his intent in his actions.
You could also try just commenting on something she is wearing or the surrounding area and follow it up with a “Hi I’m such and such”. Conversation is easy. Realize that you are a unique person who’s had x-amount of years of unique experience. You DO have things to talk about.
How to start conversation is not the real question. The real question is how to have an awesome party inside and project your incredible reality outwards to magnetically attract females.
Once you can consistently generate great feelings inside, you will be unstoppable in life, especially with women. How to start conversation will be far from your thoughts, guaranteed.
Kurt Spelling
The dating game can make a lot of people nervous. What to wear? Where to go? Will she like this place, or that?
Relax. There are two simple tips you can use to take the pressure off the dating game.
1. Keep it Simple and Personal
One of the biggest mistakes guys make is taking women on huge elaborate first dates. If you barely know the girl, why would you want to do that to yourself?
Don’t force a long boring dinner. The girl might not be as cool as you remember her.
The dating game is best started simple. Go to a really nice park near where you live, or something similar like a botanical garden, or trails in the woods. Go for a walk and talk.
It is best to keep it personal and low pressure. The worst first date you could go on would be dinner and a movie. A movie is two hours of zero conversation. This makes you no progress in getting to know each other and is a complete waste of time.
2. Go to Multiple Places – Build Comfort
The other way to take pressure off the dating game is to go to multiple places. This not only builds a lot of comfort between the two of you, but will most likely be the most unique date the girl has been on.
Which sounds more fun to you?
A date where you go to a restaurant and then a movie and then say goodnight, or a date where you go for a walk in a garden, then grab food before checking out an art exhibit, then grab some drinks at a crazy Japanese hibachi bar, then go back to her/your place?
You see how the dating game can be boring and high pressure or it can be how you’d like it to be; Fun, interesting, and leading to intimacy with your new friend.
Enjoy the dating game,
Kurt Spelling
How to impress a girl is something that should never cross your mind. This is how you will truly impress a girl.
Confused?
Let me explain. Society teaches us to impress a girl by buying her presents, treating her special, and always making sure she is completely happy.
This not only doesn’t impress a girl, but in most cases will make a girl completely not attracted to you.
The truly beautiful women have had so many men do this to them throughout their life that most of them are very turned off by it.
So if beautiful women hate this kind of behavior, how do you impress them?
The only thing you must do is be non-reactive and solid in your own reality. By this, I mean you are sure of your decisions, actions, and beliefs.
She has no effect over your behaviors simply based on the fact that she is a girl or beautiful. Every woman wants to align with a man who is self-sufficient, self-amused, and strong willed.
Beautiful girls are used to barking commands, or whining and having men listen and react according to their will. Although a lot of beautiful women enjoy this, biologically it disgusts them. The man who won’t bend to their will is the one they will be attracted to.
When a girl is always asked questions like “Where do you want to eat?”, “Where do you want to sit?” “What do you feel like doing?”, “Is this okay?” they begin to get disgusted with their indecisive (and now un-manly) man.
Be solid in your beliefs and reality. Don’t worry about how to impress a girl and you will know how to impress a girl.
Good to know.
Kurt Spelling
Welcome back!
Humor is a great asset to any man who is trying to seduce women because it creates comfort and familiarity between you and the woman.
When using humor as one of your seduction techniques, realize that this alone will not get you the woman. Just being funny will not seduce women, but it really can help.
So how can you utilize humor in your seduction techniques?
1. Twist Her Words
It is always hilarious to twist a girls words, especially in a sexual manner. Then always follow it up by framing it as if she is suggesting the sexuality, and dismiss it. This will keep her chasing you and keep the interaction fun the entire time.
For example, she says “Let’s break it.” You can immediately say “What, lets get naked? God I’ve only known you for an hour, slow down. You have to at least buy me a drink first.”
Do this with a devilish grin and dubious look and she will laugh every time. The best part about using these seduction techniques is it will get her thinking about you in a sexual manner, even through humor. Very good stuff.
2. Everything That Was Funny When You Were Ten, Still Is
There are a few seduction techniques that illustrate this perfectly. For example, try using the gag when you point at a girls chest and say “what’s that?”, then tap her in the nose when she looks down.
You can be sure she hasn’t had a man do this to her since she was ten. And, yup, it’s still funny. Also, you’ve now fooled around with her like most other men have forgotten how. You’re fun. You’re unique.
Seduction techniques like these will keep your interactions fun and sexually charged. Use them to easily develop attraction with humor.
Kurt Spelling
