Hey again guys,

This could have easily been the first post on this blog, but it just never popped into my head until now.

When you make the decision to get good with women and conquer the dating game, there is a very important first step that you must take. Without this first step, all other steps are pointless, and you will take much much longer to learn how to meet and seduce women.

So what is this important first step?

To conquer the dating game you must define what that means to you. More specifically, what you want to get out of it.

Do you want sex with a different girl every night?

Do you want to meet a special woman who will love and take care of you?

Do you simply want to improve your confidence and charm?

All of these are great reasons to handle this aspect of your life, but which is right for you? Defining what is important to achieve for yourself is the most helpful thing you can do when beginning to this journey. After all, you can’t get where you want to be if you don’t know where that is.

You may not know what you want yet. Some people begin learning how to meet and attract women and their entire goal changes. It’s fine if your goals change, but you must have some to begin with to get the process started.

Open up word pad and write down 5 goals you’d like to achieve in your life as far as meeting women and personal development. Save this file and begin learning and applying everything you can. Check back with it often and edit/update it as necessary.

This will definitely help you speed towards a life full of female abundance and being a man who fully know how to meet, attract, and seduce the women you desire.

Get em’

Kurt Spelling

This has been a question that men have asked for years.

“What are the magical words i can say to a girl to instantly have her interested in me. What is the best pick up line?”

It may blow your mind, but the best pick up line is no pick up line.

Pick up lines do not work. How come?

Well, look at what using a pickup line is saying to he girl. You are coming over to her, and are so interested in her, giving her so much value, that you have to invent a pick up line in hopes of wooing her and winning her approval.

What if she’s not a cool person? What do you know about her besides that she is beautiful?

Beauty is common. There is no reason to give a girl a very high value based solely on the fact that she is beautiful. This is essentially what a pick up line does, and that is why they do not work.

So what is the best pick up line?

“Hi, my name is…” Works great!

Till next time,

Kurt Spelling

Hey again fellas!

Flirting body language is one of the most powerful tools of a man who is looking to seduce women. Male flirting body language can be achieved quickly by following a few simple methods.

Male flirting body language Technique 1: Push Pull

When interacting with a girl, use your body language to approve and disapprove of her. When she says something you love, turn your flirting body language on with a bit of touch and by directing your legs and torso toward her (approval).

When she does something you disapprove of, or at least jokingly disapprove of, turn your flirting body language off and face away from her.

You can even go as far as turning your back to her for a solid 5 seconds. Turn back with a sly smile and she’ll be laughing every time.

Girls are emotional creatures and are attracted to a man based on how he makes her FEEL. Using push pull body language, you will run her through a range of emotions and really stimulate her.

Women find this irresistible.

Male Flirting Body Language Technique 2: Establish Alpha-Male Status

After you have initially approached a girl and opened conversation, try planting your feet firmly right in front of her. Be solid, don’t fidget.

Flirting body language for a man is half about push-pull and half about dominance. Women want an alpha male.

Stand tall and firmly in front of the girl you are interested in! Keep your head tall and your motions smooth and deliberate. Slowing down your movements, along with tall posture, will present your male flirting body language in a powerful way.

Go get em!

Kurt Spelling

The dating game can make a lot of people nervous. What to wear? Where to go? Will she like this place, or that?

Relax. There are two simple tips you can use to take the pressure off the dating game.

1. Keep it Simple and Personal

One of the biggest mistakes guys make is taking women on huge elaborate first dates. If you barely know the girl, why would you want to do that to yourself?

Don’t force a long boring dinner. The girl might not be as cool as you remember her.

The dating game is best started simple. Go to a really nice park near where you live, or something similar like a botanical garden, or trails in the woods. Go for a walk and talk.

It is best to keep it personal and low pressure. The worst first date you could go on would be dinner and a movie. A movie is two hours of zero conversation. This makes you no progress in getting to know each other and is a complete waste of time.

2. Go to Multiple Places – Build Comfort

The other way to take pressure off the dating game is to go to multiple places. This not only builds a lot of comfort between the two of you, but will most likely be the most unique date the girl has been on.

Which sounds more fun to you?

A date where you go to a restaurant and then a movie and then say goodnight, or a date where you go for a walk in a garden, then grab food before checking out an art exhibit, then grab some drinks at a crazy Japanese hibachi bar, then go back to her/your place?

You see how the dating game can be boring and high pressure or it can be how you’d like it to be; Fun, interesting, and leading to intimacy with your new friend.

Enjoy the dating game,

Kurt Spelling

Welcome back guys,

Knowing if she’s interested used to be a huge problem of mine, and I know it is for a lot of guys today. What are the flirting signs? How do you know she’s interested and not just ‘being nice’?

Eventually, you will ALWAYS know she’s interested by the vibe you are getting. Until you reach that point though, you can look for the 5 major flirting signs as a guide.

As a general rule, once you receive three solid flirting signs, you know its ON and she is fully interested in you. Knowing this makes it really easy to escalate to a kiss or something beyond chatting, because you can be positive inside she’s interested.

So what are these obvious flirting signs?

Is she flirting?

1. She Asks Your Name
This one is huge. For a girl to ask your name, she is very interested in learning who you are. Always take this as a big sign.

2. She Strokes Her Hair While Talking to You

3. Her Body Language is Directed Toward You

For example, you’re sitting down and her legs are crossed towards you, torso facing you as well. This is a solid flirting sign. She’s interested.

4. She Laughs at Your Jokes, Even When They Aren’t Funny

5. She Stays With You Even If Friends Leave

When a girl’s friends go to the bathroom and she stays to chat with you, you can assume she’s interested. This is one of the biggest flirting signs of all.

There are literally hundreds of subtle ways to tell that a girl is interested in you. With practice and experience you will learn how to spot them all, without conscious effort.

Once you gain enough experience with flirting signs, you will just “feel” it.

Good to Know

Kurt Spelling

Hey fellas,

A lot of men have come to me asking how to show a girl you like her. This seems to be a problem for many guys, particularly if you are the type who tends to meet girls through work or your social circle.

The best part about this problem is it is very easy to fix. How to show a girl you like her is dependent on what place your relationship is at.

First of all, make sure to you show a girl you like her right away. When meeting a girl, you can say something along the lines of “you seemed fun I had to meet you” or “I noticed you had a lot of style and I had to meet you”.

Either of these will let her know you are initially interested. Saying “I had to meet you” though, lets them know that you are only liking them superficially as of right now, and are interested in seeing if you would like their personality.

Later on in an interaction, if you are enjoying the girl’s personality, let her know. Comment on your commonalities, as this will show you are appreciating her personality as well as finding yourself compatible with her. These comments could be as simple as a smile and a high five when she pleases you with what she says or does.

Reward good behavior and traits that you enjoy and you will find more and more of them come out. These little rewards are all you need to know about how to show a girl you like her.

Girls are very intuitive and will pick up on your intent in the interaction. By the way, it is SUPER IMPORTANT that you DO show a girl you like her. Otherwise you will end up either boring her, or worse, becoming her ‘friend’.

Showing her you’re interested is the first step towards avoiding the ‘friend zone’ and beginning a new romantic relationship.

Get em’

Kurt Spelling