Being in the moment is something that will help you in all aspects of your life, but it can be particularly helpful for dating.  When you are in the moment you convey a lot of attractive qualities to the opposite sex.

First of all, you’re in the moment, enjoying everything around you for what it is, as apposed to up in your own head.  When you are talking to a girl and you are in your head, she will subconsciously pickup on this.  If when you’re talking, you’re up in your head thinking “Umm what should I say next, ummm would she like it if i did this?” it comes through in the communication.

This is one of the things guys do most that women simply hate.  It conveys low value.  It shows that you are actively placing her as higher value than yourself, because you are putting so much thought into the interaction with the woman.

To avoid being up in our own heads, we must be in the moment.  Now what does that mean exactly?

Being in the moment, essentially means just being.

There are no thoughts, no judgments, no questioning of what is occurring around you.  You are embracing exactly what is going on in front of you, without thinking about what has happened in the past, what will happen in the future, if this is good, if it is bad, if you should do this or that.  You just are.

When you are in the moment people like you.  You come off as genuine and real.  You come off as someone who has a calm and controlled life.  You appear confident.

Most people do not live in the moment and this is the worst thing you can do for your mental health.  If you never stop to just appreciate what is going on right this moment, and spend your whole life wrapped up in the past, or possible future, you will never live life powerfully, be it with women or in any other aspect.

Also, when you are in the moment, you will be enjoying your reactions much  more.  You will be connecting with people much quicker and more deeply because you are being genuine in your experience.  Women will see this quality in you and find it endearing and intriguing.

So how can we begin to live in the moment?

There is a simple breathing exercise that I highly recommend.  It will teach you to live in the moment much more often and to appreciate the moment for what it is.

Whenever you get a chance, or recognize that you’re very out of the moment, just take a deep full breath.  Breath in deeply, filling up your diaphragm first, and then the top of your chest.  As you fill your lungs with air, think no thoughts, but just focus on the air coming in.

Quickly you will be bombarded with no smells sights and sounds of your atmosphere that you didn’t previously notice were there.  You will be appreciating the moment.
Doing this multiple times a day will greatly increase your ability to live powerfully in the moment.

Kurt Spelling

Hey guys,

Many men find getting girl’s phone numbers an incredibly difficult and daunting task. Wouldn’t you like to be able to get a girl’s phone number anytime you want, easily? Sure, we all would.

So here’s how to get girl’s phone numbers in one minute.

Approach them and open directly. Say something along the lines of you had to come meet them because they looked adorable/cute/interesting/fun, whichever you feel best with.

Quickly follow with a time constraint. Maybe you are on your lunch break and will be late back to work. Or, you’re meeting a friend somewhere soon and are late.

Either way, make there be a reason for having to leave soon.

Tease the chick on something situational to make her feel like you are fun and a cool guy to be around. Talk for a little bit about anything that you’d like to. Comment on whatever is around you. The conversation doesn’t have to be incredibly interesting.

After about thirty seconds of small talk, pull out your phone, hand it over to her in a very direct way and say “Put your number in here, I’ll give you a call when I get a bit more time to chat”

It’s very important to command it. It’s like assuming the sale in marketing. You know she’s going to put her number in your phone. There is no doubt. She will go along with it every time.

If you’d like to follow up with this girl’s phone number you should do it within the next twenty minutes, otherwise you will most likely be forgotten and the girl will flake on the call.

Open her with a funny nickname to make her remember you and the feelings she was experiencing during the interaction. “Mall girl! or Food Court Chick!” would work just fine.

That’s it. The 1 minute number close is really that easy. Go try it!

Stay Pimpin’

Kurt Spelling

Hey Guys,

This interesting technique was invented and tested the other night and let me tell you, it passed with flying colors! It left the girl literally senseless and unable to move for fifteen minutes.

If you are looking for a new sexual technique to use that is a bit different and interesting, this is for you.

Start off having sex like you normally would, working your pace up as you go. When you can tell she’s starting to get really hot and into it, that is when you begin this sexual technique.

It involves having her do a little bit of visualizing and will really help get her into body and how she is feeling.

Speak to her confidently and slowly, almost hypnotically. Rhythm your speech with your stroke for extra emphasis.

Tell her to focus on the feeling she is experiencing in her vagina and really embrace it.

Then say “If this feeling was a ball of pulsating energy, located on your vagina, what color would it be?”

She’ll moan something like “Ohhh red” or pink or purple would be the most common.

Tell her to visualize that ball pulsating and increasing in brightness and size as you increase the strength and speed of your stroke.

Keep having her imagine this ball getting brighter and larger, pulsating and faster and more wildly as you continue to increase your stroke.

Tell her that the ball is about to burst and the colored energy is going to spread across her entire body, spreading the feeling she feels right now in her vagina across her entire being.

Tell her to focus on the feeling and let the ball explode as you really lay it to her.

She should have a really powerful orgasm that leaves her dripping and senseless. Awesome!

You may find this hard to perform with chicks who are very ADD, flighty, flaky, or for lack of a nicer word, dumb. They might just say “huh?”

For the majority of women though, this will be a great experience, and will really help immerse them in the amazing feelings you are giving them all over.

Sexual techniques like this will leave women obsessed with you because they link so many positive emotions to you. Powerful orgasms make women addicted to you.

Be careful!

Kurt Spelling

This has been a question that men have asked for years.

“What are the magical words i can say to a girl to instantly have her interested in me. What is the best pick up line?”

It may blow your mind, but the best pick up line is no pick up line.

Pick up lines do not work. How come?

Well, look at what using a pickup line is saying to he girl. You are coming over to her, and are so interested in her, giving her so much value, that you have to invent a pick up line in hopes of wooing her and winning her approval.

What if she’s not a cool person? What do you know about her besides that she is beautiful?

Beauty is common. There is no reason to give a girl a very high value based solely on the fact that she is beautiful. This is essentially what a pick up line does, and that is why they do not work.

So what is the best pick up line?

“Hi, my name is…” Works great!

Till next time,

Kurt Spelling

Welcome back guys,

The attractive man is something that every man is trying to be. Nobody want’s to be Pee Wee Herman, but everyone wants to be Brad Pitt.

Being magnetically attractive to women feels great. Having beautiful women give you love and attention is an exhilarating and delightful feeling.

Did you know that you can become the attractive man just by doing one thing, and it doesn’t involve working out, spending money, or climbing in social status?

To be the attractive man, feel that amazing feeling inside that you would feel if you had everything you wanted in your life in regards to women.

Feel it all the time.

This positive energy will literally flow from every one of your pours and magnetically attract women.

You can achieve this feeling at any time you choose, and with practice, it will become automatic.

There are numerous ways to achieve the incredible feeling of the attractive man, so I’ll just share one. It involves a simple visualization technique.

Sit relaxed in your chair and take a few deep breaths. Close your eyes and visualize exactly how you would like your life to be with women.

See the vision of yourself as the attractive man surrounded by the number and type of women you would love to have. Envision the way these women respond to your every action, and are enthralled by your presence and charm.

More importantly, feel the great feeling that should be bubbling up inside you right now. Feel as if you have already become that attractive man.

Visualize and feel the power of the attractive man and very soon you’ll find yourself to be him.

Till Next Time

Kurt Spelling

Every man wants to know how to meet women at the mall. During the daytime, many of the most beautiful women can be found at the mall because they are both fashion conscious and are usually not working a day job for a reason (rich boyfriends, strippers etc).

So whats the secret on how to meet women at the mall?

1. Open Conversation - It’s Easy When You Know How

This part is SO easy in the mall because there is so much situational stuff to chat about. Plus, unlike men, women go to the mall to casually shop. You don’t have to worry about them being in a busy rush. They have plenty of time to chat.

Open conversation with something situational. Ask them how a shirt would look on you, or where a store is.

A hilarious technique to meet women at the mall would be to ask “Hey can you tell me where such-and-such a store is?” while your standing right in front of it. She will always laugh, then just follow it up by saying “Well, I had to stop and chat with you somehow” or something similar, and an introduction.

2. Meeting Women At the Mall - A Powerful Bonus

The best part about knowing how to meet women at the mall is that you get to go on a date with them instantly!

If you meet a girl in a clothing store, you can instantly grab iced cream, play arcade games, buy some funky jewelry, and have some coffee. That is 4 separate dates, and you haven’t even left the place you met at!

By using this method of instant dating you will be building a lot of comfort very quickly with this women.

Now that you know how to meet women at the mall, where you take it from there is up to you!

Mmm Hmmm

Kurt Spelling

Hey again guys,

Todays post is a fun one. I’m going to present to you a few quick and easy ways to be less self conscious, especially at bars and clubs.

Why is this important?

When you are being self conscious, you are not in the moment. You are actually about as out of the moment as possible. As you have read and started to realize through this blog, being in the moment is half of what will make you fantastic with women. This is why you Must be less self conscious.

But what methods will teach you how to be less self conscious?

This is where the fun comes in. You’re going to be less self conscious by doing things that would normally make you INCREDIBLY self conscious. Then when you realize that no negative repercussions come from such acts, you will break down your self conscious tendencies little by little.

Repeating these processes, along with other techniques you will learn from me, will yield incredible results.

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So you’re in a bar or club and feeling a bit self conscious. This takes you out of the moment, making you less fun and social, and killing your inner party.

There first thing to do is Get loud.

I mean REALLY loud. Take your friends and start doing things that invade other peoples vocal space. They should hear you and your friends having fun. Make them look at you and break out of your shell of insecurity. It might make you more insecure at first, but who cares, blast past that!

Tell a funny story with your friends and get REALLY into it. Use big hand motions, and be LOUD with the funny parts. Feel free to actively act out goofy parts of the story, with loud accompanying sound effects.

For example if you’re telling involving an animal, fully act out that animals actions, sound effects and all.

This burst of energy will not only make you realize it DOESN’T MATTER what ANYONE thinks, but will also boost your inner energy and good time.

Another fun thing to do is lay on the floor.

Go ahead and lay on the floor. Sprawl out on your back with your legs and arms out. People will ALL look at you.

It’s OK. I promise it’s OK.

It WILL feel crazy to you, and you WILL be self conscious the first time you do this, but grin and bear it. Forcing yourself to step out of your comfort level is the only way to be less self conscious.

Lay on the floor with everyone staring for a solid 10 seconds. Then just get up and rejoin your friends like nothing happened. A nervous laugh might come out of you, but is completely unnecessary.

It’s funny because it leaves everyone thinking “What the heck?”.

Get used to people looking at you. When you are great with women sometimes you will do an entire interaction with a girl, with a whole audience. I’ve had it happen before. Three normal guys will be listening to your every word and laughing at all your jokes while you are seducing the girl.

The only way to accomplish this is to be less self conscious!

Use these techniques along with others I have given you to begin the process today.

Have fun!

Kurt Spelling

What’s up guys!

The first time I made out with a girl was in kindergarten, and I didn’t need to use a line or tactic. I didn’t need to learn to kiss a girl, I already knew how.

Isn’t it funny the way society messes us up in the head? Man, haha.

So, you’ve been talking with a girl for a bit and you can tell she’s really interested. You want to escalate the interaction by kissing. How can you go about this?

There are a few techniques which are really great. These are the gems, and the only two that I would personally bother to use.

The first way you can learn to kiss is by using the eye contact kiss.

This technique is so cliché you’d think it comes out of a movie, but man it works! Deep eye contact along with silence can initiate a kiss every time.

A quick note on eye contact: There is a very powerful way to make deep eye contact with people that will make them feel as if your eyes are amazingly penetrating and that you are really seeing into their soul.

When looking into someone’s eyes, picture in your mind’s eye a stream of energy coming out of their eyes and into yours. It can be any color, but I find pink or red creates the most sexuality with this technique.

They will feel as if they can’t look away from you, as well as very attracted and turned on. So, this is a great technique to use when trying to kiss a girl in this manner.

Simply turn up the eye contact and turn down the conversation.

You should quickly glance down at her lips and then back up to her eyes a few times. She will get the picture. Then just lean in and kiss.

I’ve only had this fail a few times. It was always because the girl was not comfortable with being seen in public kissing. Maybe she had a boyfriend, but if you feel the chick is into you this is a surefire way to elevate to the next level.

The first time you use this you will wonder why you ever had to learn to kiss a girl in the first place. It really comes so naturally after the first few times.

Not everyone will become a natural right away. Sometimes it takes a few success to help you feel great about yourself and erase any negative social conditioning you may have. Because of this, I have another method you can use to learn to kiss a girl.

“Do you want to kiss me?”

This one is a classic. A famous pick up artist named Mystery wrote about this in his groundbreaking ebook “The Venusian Arts Handbook.”

Take a small pause in conversation and simply say “Do you want to kiss me?”. Notice how you are framing it.

Does SHE want to kiss YOU. Not, “can I kiss you” or “would it be okay if I kissed you?” Big difference, you’ll see why.

This can be done with zero anxiety because of contingencies you can easily use. If she says yes, obviously you lean in and kiss. You get this about 10% of the time.

It takes a confident girl to state her intentions.

If she says ANYTHING other then a clear No, you can say something along the lines of “Let’s find out” and lean in for the kiss.

Something like “well umm” or “I don’t know” just immediately say “lets find out” and lean in.

If she says a clear No, then you can say something along the lines of “Well, I didn’t say you could. But, it looked like you had something on your mind.”

I would throw out a smirk or grin here and then you just continue the conversation and interaction. In this way, you are framing her as the devilish one who seemed like she was thinking about kissing you.

Also, you exude confidence.

Where most men will feel “shot down” or “rejected” by a No, you flip the script and are unaffected and non-reactive.

She is now more attracted and most likely would not say no to this question again.

Remember that it is crucial to continue the interaction if she says no. Otherwise, even if you don’t show it, she will know she affected you’re state and got to you in some way. This shows that your confidence and mental image of yourself is weak, and she is now in the controlling seat of the interaction. Very unattractive.

These two techniques will be all you need to learn to kiss a girl. Honestly, once your confidence level has increased and your eye contact has greatly improved, talking or knowing what to say will become almost completely unnecessary.

You will feel when it is the right time, and act on it.

Now that you have the knowledge you need to learn to kiss, there are a few “kissing rules” that will help you keep the intereaction flowing well.

On the first kiss, especially out at a club, you should always break it first. Leave her wanting more. It will set you apart from probably every other man she has ever kissed.

If you have taken her somewhere private for a little smooch, break the kiss first and go return to your friends at the bar. She WILL want to kiss you again.

Besides, if a first kiss transitions into a make out, and your not at the point in the night where you can go somewhere for sex, what is the point?

Unnecessary arousal early in the night can just become a problem. Save the mystery and intrigue for later when you are trying to bring her home.

You can learn to kiss in just one night by practicing these techniques. Get your confidence up and don’t be afraid to go for it! Refer to my other post on how nothing is a big deal, and rate a kiss rejection on your scale of 1 to 10.
Not as scary as it seemed before!

Oh yea, HOT CHICKS!

how does she tie those things?

Stay pimpin’

Kurt Spelling

WasssSup Guys,

I’m gonna share two techniques that I personally LOVE using when gaming a chick after having exchanged numbers. These are both field tested tons of times and are a great way to gain a lot interest through something dull, like a text message.

she HATES boring texts!

Are your texts doing more harm than good? Try these!
The Poem Technique

MSG1:Creatively complete this poem, roses are red violets are blue..

Girls absolutely LOVE this one because it’s that dumb, goofy, soap-opera, type message that girls love to respond to. Plus, and a HUGE plus at at that, you are SCREENING her with it. “Creatively” implies that you are judging her on her creativity. SO she is going to (and almost always does) make it funny. I’ve gotten responses like “this is the most random thing I’ve ever been asked to do…lol hi!” and “please be my fuck buddy when i want to screw =P” Some are definitely worth a laugh. Then just transition into normal chat from there. Keep your texts short and to the point, and set up the meeting.

The Arnold Schwarzenegger Quiz Show

This technique is fuckin’ amazing and really makes you realize how much FUN you can have with text message gaming.

Get like 5 or 6 girls who you haven’t chilled with yet, but have gotten their numbers. And then let the games begin!

MSG1:I’m about to offer you a once in a lifetime opportunity.

Her:OMG WHAT!?!?!?!?!(or something maybe a little less enthusiastic…but you get the idea haha)

MSG2:You get to party with me tonight, but only if u can answer one really important question

Now shes intrigued what that “important question” is, and can only help but agree to the frame where she is hoping to win the chance to party with you, which is fuckin bad ass!

Her: lol what is it??

MSG3:Name 6 Arnold Schwarzenegger movies

HER: (If she’s SMART) haha..um predator, terminator 1, 2, 3, running man, twins

MSG:nice u win..bonus points for running man hah, pregamin here at 10:30 hit me up

HER:(If she’s DUMB)what haha no way

MSG:Sorry thats incorrect, thank you for playing

And then you DON’T hang out with them, at least not tonight. Thats the best part about having 6 or more numbers to do this with. The ones who pass the test are now qualified to you and you know they are the FUN ones. Screw some chick who’s too cool to answer a funny text message question like that one. And now that you’ve blown her off, even though she knows you’re going out, she’s going to be looking to get validated by hanging out with you the next time.

Now you’re gaining interest with the text message instead of being just the same as other dudes. Have fun with these ones, I know I do.

Kurt Spelling

Hey guys ,

A great way to become the man at any bar or club is to become friendly with all the staff that work there. This is easy to do, and will make everyone want to know, “who’s this guy?”

For bouncers, chat them up upon entering and leaving. Make good eye contact and if it’s not very busy have a brief conversation with them. Stories about a girl going wild in the street, or a crazy fight you just saw would be something that would make the bouncers laugh and rememeber you.

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For bartenders, make solid eye contact and speak loudly and clearly. Again, if it is not busy, engage them in brief and interesting conversation. Make sure to tip very well. You will find that tipping well will not only make them remember you, but will have them serving you faster and giving you free drinks.

For managers, talk them up every time you come into the bar. Be respectful and shake their hands. Tell them how much you enjoy their place and all the things you love about it. This will then transition into normal conversation and you will become buddies.

By knowing and shaking hands with the bouncers, managers, and bar tenders of a specific bar or club, you gain their level of status. Girls are experts at tuning into these cues that show men of high status. Even if you do not think they notice, they do. They will want to meet and get to know you just because of this one simple technique.

Enjoy.

Kurt Spelling