Hey all,

It’s been a while since I’ve posted much on this blog.  I’ve taken a solid vacation from the Seduction community..spent a while maxin and relaxin in San Diego cali.

Now it’s time to get it goin again!

I recently began my twitter page, so make sure to check me out there at http://www.twitter.com/kurtspelling

And also my youtube channel is about to get a lot more videos posted, so make sure to check me there at http://www.youtube.com/user/HowToSeduceWomenNow

I’ll be updating this place shortly with lots of new advice, photos, things about myself and life, etc, so stay tuned!  Hope you like it!

Kurt Spelling

Being in the moment is something that will help you in all aspects of your life, but it can be particularly helpful for dating.  When you are in the moment you convey a lot of attractive qualities to the opposite sex.

First of all, you’re in the moment, enjoying everything around you for what it is, as apposed to up in your own head.  When you are talking to a girl and you are in your head, she will subconsciously pickup on this.  If when you’re talking, you’re up in your head thinking “Umm what should I say next, ummm would she like it if i did this?” it comes through in the communication.

This is one of the things guys do most that women simply hate.  It conveys low value.  It shows that you are actively placing her as higher value than yourself, because you are putting so much thought into the interaction with the woman.

To avoid being up in our own heads, we must be in the moment.  Now what does that mean exactly?

Being in the moment, essentially means just being.

There are no thoughts, no judgments, no questioning of what is occurring around you.  You are embracing exactly what is going on in front of you, without thinking about what has happened in the past, what will happen in the future, if this is good, if it is bad, if you should do this or that.  You just are.

When you are in the moment people like you.  You come off as genuine and real.  You come off as someone who has a calm and controlled life.  You appear confident.

Most people do not live in the moment and this is the worst thing you can do for your mental health.  If you never stop to just appreciate what is going on right this moment, and spend your whole life wrapped up in the past, or possible future, you will never live life powerfully, be it with women or in any other aspect.

Also, when you are in the moment, you will be enjoying your reactions much  more.  You will be connecting with people much quicker and more deeply because you are being genuine in your experience.  Women will see this quality in you and find it endearing and intriguing.

So how can we begin to live in the moment?

There is a simple breathing exercise that I highly recommend.  It will teach you to live in the moment much more often and to appreciate the moment for what it is.

Whenever you get a chance, or recognize that you’re very out of the moment, just take a deep full breath.  Breath in deeply, filling up your diaphragm first, and then the top of your chest.  As you fill your lungs with air, think no thoughts, but just focus on the air coming in.

Quickly you will be bombarded with no smells sights and sounds of your atmosphere that you didn’t previously notice were there.  You will be appreciating the moment.
Doing this multiple times a day will greatly increase your ability to live powerfully in the moment.

Kurt Spelling

Hey guys,

Many men find getting girl’s phone numbers an incredibly difficult and daunting task. Wouldn’t you like to be able to get a girl’s phone number anytime you want, easily? Sure, we all would.

So here’s how to get girl’s phone numbers in one minute.

Approach them and open directly. Say something along the lines of you had to come meet them because they looked adorable/cute/interesting/fun, whichever you feel best with.

Quickly follow with a time constraint. Maybe you are on your lunch break and will be late back to work. Or, you’re meeting a friend somewhere soon and are late.

Either way, make there be a reason for having to leave soon.

Tease the chick on something situational to make her feel like you are fun and a cool guy to be around. Talk for a little bit about anything that you’d like to. Comment on whatever is around you. The conversation doesn’t have to be incredibly interesting.

After about thirty seconds of small talk, pull out your phone, hand it over to her in a very direct way and say “Put your number in here, I’ll give you a call when I get a bit more time to chat”

It’s very important to command it. It’s like assuming the sale in marketing. You know she’s going to put her number in your phone. There is no doubt. She will go along with it every time.

If you’d like to follow up with this girl’s phone number you should do it within the next twenty minutes, otherwise you will most likely be forgotten and the girl will flake on the call.

Open her with a funny nickname to make her remember you and the feelings she was experiencing during the interaction. “Mall girl! or Food Court Chick!” would work just fine.

That’s it. The 1 minute number close is really that easy. Go try it!

Stay Pimpin’

Kurt Spelling

Hey Guys,

This interesting technique was invented and tested the other night and let me tell you, it passed with flying colors! It left the girl literally senseless and unable to move for fifteen minutes.

If you are looking for a new sexual technique to use that is a bit different and interesting, this is for you.

Start off having sex like you normally would, working your pace up as you go. When you can tell she’s starting to get really hot and into it, that is when you begin this sexual technique.

It involves having her do a little bit of visualizing and will really help get her into body and how she is feeling.

Speak to her confidently and slowly, almost hypnotically. Rhythm your speech with your stroke for extra emphasis.

Tell her to focus on the feeling she is experiencing in her vagina and really embrace it.

Then say “If this feeling was a ball of pulsating energy, located on your vagina, what color would it be?”

She’ll moan something like “Ohhh red” or pink or purple would be the most common.

Tell her to visualize that ball pulsating and increasing in brightness and size as you increase the strength and speed of your stroke.

Keep having her imagine this ball getting brighter and larger, pulsating and faster and more wildly as you continue to increase your stroke.

Tell her that the ball is about to burst and the colored energy is going to spread across her entire body, spreading the feeling she feels right now in her vagina across her entire being.

Tell her to focus on the feeling and let the ball explode as you really lay it to her.

She should have a really powerful orgasm that leaves her dripping and senseless. Awesome!

You may find this hard to perform with chicks who are very ADD, flighty, flaky, or for lack of a nicer word, dumb. They might just say “huh?”

For the majority of women though, this will be a great experience, and will really help immerse them in the amazing feelings you are giving them all over.

Sexual techniques like this will leave women obsessed with you because they link so many positive emotions to you. Powerful orgasms make women addicted to you.

Be careful!

Kurt Spelling

Hey again fellas,

Reflecting back on the last few years, I realize I have changed a lot. I am not the person I once was, and simply knowing that makes me more attractive to women.

Let me explain.

Many men will never stop to reflect on who they are and what they stand for in this world.

What are your morales?

What are your dreams and aspirations?

What are your likes dislikes and standards in personal relations, as well as every other activity you embrace?

Knowing who you are, and more importantly making no excuses for it, is what defines the attractive man.

I know men who I think are assholes, but they get girls. They act the way they do and embrace their reality, their behavior, and who they are as people.

Women don’t want a phony. They want a man with a strong reality and a strong belief in himself.

The attractive man knows what he’s about and follows through on it. The attractive man would never tell a lie to impress a girl, or tailor his actions to the likes of another.

The attractive man knows and loves himself.

Maybe now your thinking “Hey, I DO act like myself, and I never get girls! I can’t be me or I’m doomed to stay a virgin”.

This isn’t true. There are just very minor details of you that maybe need some tweaking. Maybe some negative social conditioning got into certain aspects of your behavior, causing you to not act like an attractive man.

This can all be fixed with a bit of knowledge and a desire to learn, and the attractive man will come out of you faster then you’d believe.

Till Next Time Fellas

Kurt Spelling

Hey again guys,

This could have easily been the first post on this blog, but it just never popped into my head until now.

When you make the decision to get good with women and conquer the dating game, there is a very important first step that you must take. Without this first step, all other steps are pointless, and you will take much much longer to learn how to meet and seduce women.

So what is this important first step?

To conquer the dating game you must define what that means to you. More specifically, what you want to get out of it.

Do you want sex with a different girl every night?

Do you want to meet a special woman who will love and take care of you?

Do you simply want to improve your confidence and charm?

All of these are great reasons to handle this aspect of your life, but which is right for you? Defining what is important to achieve for yourself is the most helpful thing you can do when beginning to this journey. After all, you can’t get where you want to be if you don’t know where that is.

You may not know what you want yet. Some people begin learning how to meet and attract women and their entire goal changes. It’s fine if your goals change, but you must have some to begin with to get the process started.

Open up word pad and write down 5 goals you’d like to achieve in your life as far as meeting women and personal development. Save this file and begin learning and applying everything you can. Check back with it often and edit/update it as necessary.

This will definitely help you speed towards a life full of female abundance and being a man who fully know how to meet, attract, and seduce the women you desire.

Get em’

Kurt Spelling

This has been a question that men have asked for years.

“What are the magical words i can say to a girl to instantly have her interested in me. What is the best pick up line?”

It may blow your mind, but the best pick up line is no pick up line.

Pick up lines do not work. How come?

Well, look at what using a pickup line is saying to he girl. You are coming over to her, and are so interested in her, giving her so much value, that you have to invent a pick up line in hopes of wooing her and winning her approval.

What if she’s not a cool person? What do you know about her besides that she is beautiful?

Beauty is common. There is no reason to give a girl a very high value based solely on the fact that she is beautiful. This is essentially what a pick up line does, and that is why they do not work.

So what is the best pick up line?

“Hi, my name is…” Works great!

Till next time,

Kurt Spelling

Hey again fellas!

One thing that many men don’t realize is that in order to win at the dating game you will have to pass womens’ “tests”. Every single woman will test a man, although some women test much less than others.

Women test a man throughout the dating game to ensure that he is a suitable mate. They want to make sure they have a strong man.

So how do you know if a woman is testing you in the dating game?

While there exists literally thousands of small tests a woman will use, knowing these three major ones will give you a huge head start.

1. She asks a lot of questions

Asking a lot of questions is a definite sign of interest, but also a test. If you give up all the information she requests right away, or too easily, you are losing at the dating game.

She will quickly get bored and move on.

Pass this test by challenging her. Don’t always reveal the information she wants right away. Make her guess, make her work for your information. You are valuable and dominant in the dating game, you’ve seen it all before!

2. She tells you to do something

Many men will instantly lose attraction in the dating game by failing this common test. You may be talking about your job as a voice actor with a woman you just met. To test, she’ll say “Oh do your funny voice!”

Many men will be too eager to please and jump right into entertainer mode. You are skilled at the dating game and instead will be challenging with a reply like “Sorry hun I got off at five, but maybe later if you’re lucky” with a sly grin.

3. She presents unacceptable behavior

Many beautiful women will test men in the dating game by offering completely unacceptable behavior and seeing how they react. She may say a rude remark, or do something inappropriate or obnoxious.

Strong men call the woman out, while weak men will just allow it because she is beautiful. She is used to this because most men aren’t skilled in the dating game, and she absolutely hates it!

She wants to be called out and told she’s being rude. Doing this right takes skills and practice, as well as powerful mindsets to ensure she does not affect your reality. This can all be learned in time.

Regards,

Kurt Spelling

Yo guys,

There is one important mindset that you need to achieve when learning how to meet women, and as the title states, it is one of abundance. For any man who is looking to add more female attention from more beautiful women, you must first make a shift in your mindset.

Now what does a mindset of abundance really mean when dealing with how to meet women?

When you think about your current state of affairs with women, what kinds of statements do you make? What kinds of desires occur?

For example, you might say “I don’t have a girlfriend and I would really love to learn how to meet a great woman. Women never give me the time of day. It’s like I’m transparent.”

The desire is that you want to meet a woman that will make a great girlfriend, but your thoughts and mindset are telling you that you are incapable of meeting a girlfriend.

In order to learn how to meet women, you must make this conscious shift in how you think about yourself in regards to women.

The “How To Meet Women” Abundance Mindset

“I’m so happy to know that there is an abundance of beautiful women in the world who are high quality and meet my standards. If a woman I see is not computable with me, it thrills me to know that there is a never ending supply of beautiful women. I’m glad to know that meeting the exact quality girlfriend I’m looking for is inevitable because there are so many women out there and I’m both motivated to find and deserving of the women I desire.”

Little bit fruity, but think about how much more empowering these statements are than the ones above.

If you repeat this mindset it will become a belief that you hold in your core. This is the first step towards knowing how to meet women in abundance.

Kurt Spelling

Hey again Fellas

I hope you guys are getting a lot out of the articles I’ve been writing on this blog. I’m doing my best to give you guys a ton of helpful information. Don’t forget to leave your thoughts and comments! I’ll be personally moderating every one of them and love to hear your guys thoughts/opinions!

Now on to todays post…

Seducing women is something that many men find tricky. A lot of guys have love lives that are unsatisfying and void of the attention from the quality women they desire.

The horrible thing about men not being able to seduce women is the women walk around wishing men knew how to seduce them!

MOST men are terrible at seducing women. This is because society and social conditioning lead men to believe in two major misconceptions.

1. Women Are non-sexual Flowers that Must be “Courted”

Women have 10x the sensitivity in their sexual organs as men. On top of that, they have a week out of every single month where their hormones rage and nearly drive them mad with horniness.

Women LOVE sex, just as much, if not more than men. Seducing women becomes much easier once you realize that you aren’t trying to swindle them or trick them into sleeping with you.

Women want to be seduced and they want your sex.

2. Seducing Women is a Long Process of Comfort Building

Wrong! Most men think that they are seducing women by talking to them over a long period of time and showing them their great personality, but in actuality, they are putting themselves in the friend zone.

Women don’t date or sleep with friends. If a woman has lost or never had attraction for you, there is almost nothing that will change that.

Seducing women can happen in just minutes. As long as you lead the process, seducing women can become almost automatic.

Kurt Spelling